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Why Absurd Goals Demotivate You

I had seven things on my to-do list on Monday. On Tuesday, I had six things. By the time Wednesday came around, I had eight items. All of these items were specific to goals.

How in the world did my to-do list increase when I had accomplished several items?

I sat down last night and thought about this. I like to set goals and make lists and accomplish! One of my strengths is achiever (I will write down something I have already achieved so I can mark it off…sue me). When I don’t achieve what I have set out to accomplish, I become frustrated and down. I wonder why I even set goals to begin with.

Sound familiar?

I create a to-do list based on my goals. When I don’t accomplish them, I feel like…

A failure

A fraud

A hypocrite

Because I am supposed to be good at setting goals. When I don’t achieve them, I lose a bit of motivation. Not accomplishing my goals day after day leads to greater loss of motivation. Absurd goals demotivate you. Period.

I realized that the daily tasks I was creating for myself, such as reading a chapter in my almost completed book, reading a chapter in my current personal development book, working on my other business, are not attainable.

I was setting goals based upon what I wanted to accomplish without thinking about my time in the day. I have two little ones who are constantly seeking my attention. Goals are good, but if I don’t have specific times in mind for when the items can be completed, my list will become demotivating.

I know that some hate the concept of a SMART goal. However, setting SMART goals allows for greater achievement and motivation to keep moving forward.  A SMART goal helps the individual to see if it is Specific, Measurable (how will you know when it is accomplished), Attainable (my current issue), Realistic, and Time specific.  A SMART goal, or task, gives you the foresight to know if what you set out to do will actually take place.

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Today, I’m throwing out my current task list and evaluating what I want to accomplish that is realistic given my time constraints and the needs of my little people. When you have goals that are big and audacious, but create steps that are attainable along the way, your goals will encourage and inspire you instead of demotivate you.

I challenge you to do the same. And if you don’t achieve what you set out to, there is always tomorrow.

Remember, you have one life to live. Make sure you enjoy it from here to there.

Here’s to the Journey!

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The Worth and Wellness Journal: A Review

There are so many new planners and journals available today, that it is hard to determine which one is right for you. There is the Purposeful Planner and the Passion Planner and the Erin Condren Planner. These are all great to get your life planned and organized. And I settled on one this year I love.

When I started looking at journals, I wasn’t even sure what I was looking for. I knew I wanted a guided journal. I knew I wanted a journal that lasted a certain number of days and was not too long. I also knew I wanted a journal that helped with my health and wellness. My health is something that was put on the back burner due to our insanely busy lives. I hate using the word busy, but there really was no time to make my health and wellness a priority until I left my 9-5 job.

I am a part of an amazing online group where people are dreaming and building and taking chances to be the best they can be. I was intrigued when I saw a post from my friend Amy Latta about her Worth and Wellness Journal.

I was lucky enough to get a sneak peek and to use the journal!

I love that the journal is based on the Self-Fulfilling Prophecy model. “Circumstances are neutral, it is your thoughts about them that make them good or bad. These thoughts lead to feelings; feelings lead to actions; and actions give you your results, which often confirm your original thought.”

Circumstances > Thoughts > Feelings > Actions > Results = This is the heart of why we do what we do.

Sow a thought, eventually reap an action, which will either positively or negatively impact your circumstance.

Amy Latta _ Worth & Wellness Journal

The 30-day Worth & Wellness Journal is a workout plan, nutrition guide, self-care advisor, and therapist. It is designed to bring a greater level of self-awareness in various areas of your life and to help you discover why you self-sabotage your goals, in particular, your own weight loss goals. Health and fitness education will only get you so far. You need the tools to help you mentally choose, and sometimes fight, to become healthy and understand your worth.

This journal provides practical nutrition, fitness, and self-care tips for better wellness, and daily writing prompts to help you become more aware of the thoughts and feelings affecting your mindset.

As in all things, awareness is the key to any change. When you change your mindset you have the ability to change your body.

Each day focuses on two areas, your worth and your wellness. The Wellness Focus focuses on 3 sections: Nutrition, Fitness, and Self-Care. In the fitness portion, you are given 3-5 exercises to do that day. This journal provides practical steps to do immediately. The Worth Focus asks several questions to help you dig deeper to understanding why you do what you do. Each day has an area to brainstorm, sketch, or mind-map.

If you are looking for a simple tool with great impact, I want to encourage you to pick up your own copy of the Worth and Wellness Journal today. Click here to get your copy.

Here’s to the Journey!

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The Upside to Change

Change is known as a four letter word. It is feared more than it is accepted. It is the unknown that is before us. Yet there is an upside to change.

“The only thing that is constant is change.” Heraclitus

The change has only been in effect for 6 days. Yet I can tell you it was the best decision yet for our family.

You know when you know that you know you are supposed to do something, or make a specific decision, but you don’t know how you know that?

I left a secure 9-5 job last week. That is how a lot of those older than me view what I have done. A secure job. Is there such thing as a secure job these days?

I went to work each day, and I didn’t love what I did. We rushed out the door each morning for me to be drained by sitting inside four walls. When I got home each night, I didn’t have energy to work out or play with the kids. I definitely didn’t want to make dinner. It isn’t that the job was bad, in fact, it was pretty good and I worked with some really great people. The problem is I wasn’t working with my people. My little people.

Life is too short and should be lived well.

A change would do you good.

Change can be hard, even when it’s a good change.  There is always an upside to change, yet we don’t normally focus on what we are gaining when we make a change. Often, we focus on what we are losing and wondering if it is worth it.

Whether the change is drastic (as is the case with my situation) or small, I have already seen 3 specific upsides to change.

1. Fresh Start

When you leave something behind and make a change, you are, in many ways, given a fresh start. A clean slate so to speak. Starting a new stage of life? Starting a new job? Decide to change your health and wellness?

A fresh start is granted when we make changes.

2. New Routines Established

Change allows you to establish a new routine. This routine can look so many different ways. Your morning can completely change. How you plan out your day. Adding in a workout time or social time. Routines allow us to move through the day with purpose and intentionality.

3. New Perspective

When you decide to stop doing one thing and start doing another, often it is due to a change in perspective. Life altering events offer this new perspective. Small epiphanies help establish a new perspective as well.

We had a life altering event when we found a lump in our daughters chin. Our eyes were opened and we gained a new perspective on life. This was life altering.

My friend sent me a text the other day about a small realization that offered a huge shift in perspective during this lent season. It was a small thought with huge implications.

When you decide to make a change, it is usually because you have been granted a new perspective on a particular situation.

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In the words of the great philosopher, Sheryl Crow, a change would do you good.

What have you been putting off, afraid of change? Maybe a change would do you good.

Here’s to the Journey!

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P.S.- Continue the conversation on Facebook! I would love to hear how I can help you on your journey. To receive up to date content, sign up to receive my free 7 Steps to a Prioritized Life on the home page and posts will be delivered right to your inbox.  If Facebook isn’t your favorite social media site, you can connect with me on TwitterPinterest, and LinkedIn.